2023 Valentine’s Day Gift Guide: Kink Edition

Valentine’s Day is QUICKLY approaching – we’re always shocked at how fast it comes around every year. If you’re anything like us, you might’ve completely forgotten to get a gift for your S.O., and are now scrambling to find something at the last minute. 

Lucky for you, we’ve compiled three different gift guides just for you, depending on what kind of gift you’re looking for: romantic, toy-related, or kinda kinky ;) We’d love to see you in the shop and will be so happy to help you find the perfect gift(s) for your boo!

If you’ve never been to a sex shop and might be a little nervous to visit WinkWink in-person to g grab your last-minute gifts, don’t be – here’s a blog post we put together for you, all about Visiting a Sex Shop for the First Time & What to Expect!

Stick around if you’re on the hunt for some kink-related toys, games, & more to add some spice into your Valentine’s Day celebrations.

If you’re looking to put together a romantic + sexy date night for your and your love, check out our Date Night Gift Guide. 

And if you’re looking for some new sex toys to throw into the mix (for your partner to enjoy on their own OR with you), head over to our Toy Gift Guide.

Wishing you a spicy, kinky Valentine’s Day, loves!

Top Kinky Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas

First off, if you’re fairly new to kink and are intrigued by the idea of introducing some kink play into your sex life, we highly recommend pausing real quick & checking out our blog post about Kink for Beginners first! This guide walks you through how to introduce kink into your relationship, and how to figure out what you like.

If you’re specifically interested in getting into BDSM, consider reading our guide to Using BDSM As a Healing Tool to learn just how powerful it can be when introduced into your sex life, especially if you are healing from some sort of trauma.

 

For some sensory fun: Damask Eye Mask

Elevate the rest of your senses by getting rid of your eyesight for a little while & wearing this beautiful blackout mask during sexy time with your partner. The stretchy, elastic material makes it so that this mask fits most sizes and can really help you enjoy each & every touch to the max!

 

 

For sub play: Felt Rose Ball Gag

If you’re into submissive play and enjoy using a ball gag to prevent you or your partner from talking (or are intrigued by the idea of it), then you need this Felt Rose Ball Gag! Not only will it help enhance your role as a sub, it also has a soft felted rose atop the ball & a lacy adjustable strap designed to fit most sizes.

 

 

For tickling + teasing: Feather Sensation Tickler

If you or your partner like a little bit of teasing and/or tickling when it comes to foreplay, you’ve got to try this Feather Sensation Tickler. Whether you use a soft touch to get your partner hot & bothered or you use it to spank them into submission, the delicate feathers & stinging silicone threads of this tickler provide the perfect balance of soft & striking. It would be so fun to use this tickler combined with a set of cuffs, such as the Beginner Fur Cuffs that we’ll be talking about a little later in this article!

 

 

For light pain play: Spank-Her Heart Paddle

Valentine’s Day-themed pain play? Yes, please! Spank your heart out with this soft, pink heart-shaped paddle that comes with light fluff on one side & black leather on the other. These opposing sides will add a fun little game to your sex life and will keep you wondering which side your partner is about to use on you – plus, it’s cute as hell!

 

 

For a little restraint: Ouch! Beginner Fur Cuffs

If you’re new to kink, or are maybe interested in exploring restraint in a comfortable, easy way, we highly recommend trying out cuffs, like these Beginner Fur Cuffs! They come with a quick-release button in case the key is ever lost, and are lined with soft faux fur to keep play comfortable. Choose from black or red and enjoy giving up control for just a little while!

 

 

For a different type of bouquet: Leather Roses Flogger

Want to kick your pain play up a notch this Valentine’s Day? Try out this Leather Roses Flogger – a great adventurous alternative to the traditional bouquet of red roses ;) The long, woven handle on this flogger will help you keep a firm grip as you tease and tap your partner. Not only are the roses super soft on your skin, they’re also sturdy and great for some more passionate play, whether you’re looking for stinging or thudding smacks.

 

 

For a sexy secret: We-Vibe Moxie Panty Vibe

Want to have a little fun giving up control to your partner – in public? ;) Use this wearable panty vibrator at your Valentine’s Day dinner, while you’re shopping for groceries for your V-Day dinner at home, or. . . anywhere, and hand off the remote + bluetooth controls to your partner! The magnet that holds the vibe to your panties is extremely strong, and the vibrations are surprisingly deep & powerful despite how small and quiet the toy is.

 

 

For nipple play: Kynx by Brynx Tarot Nipple Clamps

Add a little magic to your V-Day nipple play with these adorable nipple clamps that feature two super cute star & tarot card charms hanging off of them! They’re sure to give you the stylish look you’re going for and the squeeze you need.

 

 

For temperature + wax play: Kynx by Brynx Drip Heart Pillar Candle

If you want to (literally) heat up the bedroom this Valentine’s Day, and stay warm during the cold season with a little wax play, these Heart Pillar Candles are the perfect gift. Use the hand-poured, Portland-made candles for drip wax play, and relax knowing that your temperature play will be skin-safe & eco-friendly! 

 

 

For a sexy game night: Funishment The Game

Need some help coming up with ideas & ways to spice up your sex life + level up your kink game? We highly recommend Funishment The Game, a deck of cards that guides you through the world of common kinks while encouraging communication & emphasizing consent! This is an especially great gift for those of you who are beginners when it comes to kink, as the game includes the main deck & the X-rated expansion pack for varying levels of intimacy. The gameplay dynamics are simple, safe, and spicy!

 

 

For Shibari enthusiasts: Black Lotus Jute Rope

This single-strand Jute Rope is a favorite among Shibari enthusiasts and is even made locally here in Bellingham, WA! It’s 32 feet long, hand-twisted by the amazing creator of Black Lotus Rope, and is available in red or blue.

 

 

For new ideas: 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do

Whether you’re totally new to the world of kink or you’re looking for some new kinky practices to incorporate into your sex life, this entertaining book will be a great read! The author makes kink into a super accessible subject for anyone curious about new ways to spice up their sex lives, and it’s overall just a fun read, too.

 

 

For bondage beginners: Bondage Mini Book

Last but definitely not least, if you’re looking for a bondage-specific book, check out the Bondage Mini Book. This pocket guide is filled with everything you need to know about the basics of bondage/BDSM, tying techniques, safety tips, and even a variety of easy-to-follow, step-by-step photos!