The O-So-Famous G-Spot: What It Is + How to Find Yours (Or Not)
Oh, the ever-famous G-spot: beloved by many vagina owners since its discovery over half a century ago, and known as one of the most pleasurable spots found inside a vagina. Today, we’re going to talk about what the G-spot actually is, how to find it (if you have one), and what some of our favorite toys are for those of you who want to explore G-spot stimulation.
Disclaimer: it’s important to note right off the bat that the G-spot is NOT something that every vagina owner has, and does not have to be something you enjoy if you do have one! If internal penetration isn’t your thing, or you just don’t enjoy the sensations provided by touch to your G-spot, that’s totally, 100% fine. There’s no pressure to have crazy orgasms from your G-spot, despite the praise it receives in a lot of sex-related media/in pop culture. Do your thing – and if your thing is internal penetration + sensations from your G-spot, or if you simply want to explore the possibilities that come ;) with it, then keep on reading!
Get to Know the Beloved G-Spot
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot is a very sensitive spot located a few inches inside the vagina along the front wall that can feel super good and often leads to full, intense orgasms for vagina owners who enjoy penetration! The spot is actually the urethral sponge that hits up against the vaginal wall, wrapping around the urethra (which can sometimes make you feel like you need to pee).
In a similar fashion to an erect penis, “The sponge gets bigger when aroused, so you can find it better when you’re turned on,” says Carolanne Marcantion, a senior sex therapist, in an interview with Women’s Health Magazine.
Why is it called a G-spot?
The G-spot, or the “Gräfenberg spot,” is named after physician Ernst Gräfenberg (who could’ve guessed?), who “discovered” the G-spot all the way back in 1950. Gräfenberg found the spot through his laboratory work as a German scientist and claimed to have found a spot in a woman’s body that “could bring untold sexual pleasure” when touched. Unsurprisingly, the modest culture of the 50’s where women’s sexuality was completely hush-hush didn’t take this finding seriously until the 60’s, when folks became a little more open to new sexual discoveries – their loss!
Gräfenberg described the G-spot as "an erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that would swell during sexual stimulation," which led to later studies by many scientists who would find themselves in disagreement on whether or not the G-spot actually exists.
Long story short: the G-spot was named after a male scientist from the 1950’s. Classic. Somebody else had to have figured it out before him and just kept it on the DL as their own little secret, right?
Where is the G-spot?
As we mentioned above, if you have one, the G-spot is the urethral sponge located along the front wall of the vagina. It’s typically located around 2 inches in and 1 inch up; however, this is NOT an end-all-be-all number. If you have a G-spot, yours may be an extra inch in, an extra 2 inches up, or nowhere near there. We’ll dive deeper (heh) into how to find your G-spot later in this article!
Does the G-spot actually exist?
This is a great question – and one that doesn’t really have a yes or no answer. Many studies over the years have come to different conclusions: the G-spot does exist, doesn’t exist, exists for some, isn’t a “spot” so much as an “area. . .” The overall consensus now in 2022 seems to be that the G-spot, first of all, does NOT exist for every vagina owner out there, but it does for some! A study in the Sexual Medicine Reviews journal also came to the conclusion that for vagina owners who do have a G-spot, it’s really more of a zone than a singular spot – “zone G,” they call it instead. Their research showed that there’s no single point that’s defined as the G-spot, but rather there are five separate “erotogenic” tissues that contribute to the sensations attributed to the G-spot!
TLDR; if you’ve tried to find your own G-spot in the past and haven’t been successful, that is totally, completely normal. It’s also totally, completely normal if you have found your own G-spot! Not all vagina owners have them, and many may have a G-”zone” instead of a spot – so play around and explore a little more to see if you might have just not searched far enough, or maybe you weren’t super aroused and had difficulty nailing down your G-zone. Or, you just might now have one and you can focus on other areas where you most enjoy internal penetration, or external sensations thanks to your clit!
What does your G-spot feel like?
The surface of your G-spot will usually feel a bit rougher than the rest of your vagina, “kind of like an orange peel,” says Jennifer Berman, MD, a urologist & female sexual medicine specialist interviewed by Health.com. She mentions that it can also be sometimes pulled back in the fold, so it may take a little bit of finger exploration to find!
How does the G-spot provide so much pleasure?
The reason the G-spot provides so much pleasure to vagina owners who 1) have a G-spot and 2) enjoy the sensation that comes from it, has to do with the fact that it’s most likely actually a part of the clitoral network. Crazy, right? In the same Women’s Health Magazine interview mentioned above, Marcantonio lets us know that "When the G-spot is stimulated, it pushes against the mons pubis, which pushes against the clitoris and clitoral ligaments, which causes pleasure.” It’s so cool how our systems are all connected to offer SO many opportunities for pleasure!
How to Find Your G-Spot (Or Not)
If you’re feeling curious about this elusive G-spot that you, well, may or may not have inside of your vagina, you can totally find out – and fairly easily!
Like we’ve said multiple times now, your G-spot may be in a different spot than many online articles will share, or it may very well be a larger zone for you rather than a singular spot you have to pinpoint.
We recommend doing some solo exploration to try and find your G-spot, as it’ll be much easier for you to take the time to explore with your fingers rather than trying to direct a partner to do so – at least at first. Once you know where your G-spot is if you’ve got one, and if you enjoy the sensation it offers, then by all means show your partner where it’s at so they can do the work for you with fingers, a penis, or a sex toy!
Studies have shown that the G-spot is easier to find when you’re aroused, and even if that’s not fully true for everybody, hey – it can’t hurt. Pull out your favorite erotic novel, clitoral vibe for a little bit of teasing, feminist porn, sexy audio story, or just get wild with fantasies in your mind, and set the mood with some dim lights, a bubble bath, candles, you name it. Do whatever you enjoy doing to get yourself in an erotic mood, and get yourself a little hot & bothered!
Then, use your fingers to feel around inside your vagina and start exploring what feels good. If you drop your hand down with your palm facing you, curve one or two fingers inward, and insert them into your vagina using a “come here” motion, you may be able to find your G-spot faster.
If you’re lying down on your back, you’ll want to do this motion against the top wall of the inside of your vagina, right against your frontal pubic area.
Again, remember that every G-spot (or zone) is different, so you may have to feel around a bit. And if you start feeling like you need to pee, that’s totally normal since the G-spot is super close to your urethra!
Best Sex Toys for G-Spot Stimulation
Once you’ve gotten comfortable with your G-spot, and if you’ve discovered that you love the feeling of G-spot stimulation via your fingers or a penis, it can be super fun to try out some G-spot-focused sex toys!
There are a ton of toys out there that can provide pinpointed stimulation to your G-spot or zone and can be insanely pleasurable with different shapes, textures, target areas, and vibrations. Curved dildos are going to be your best friend when it comes to G-spot stimulation since they curve inward and can provide targeted pleasure to the frontal wall of your vagina, as opposed to straight dildos that slide right into the center of your vagina and miss the G-spot.
Below, we’ve listed out some of our all-time favorite dildos for g-spot stimulation to level up those already delicious sensations you’ve found with your fingers!
Best G-Spot Dildos
We looove this gorgeous silicone dildo so much, not only for its stunning swirly pastel colors but for its delicious G-spot potential. The ridge toward the top of the dildo is fantastic for G-spot stimulation, and the base even has a strong suction cup that makes it easy to attach to any flat surface!
A beautiful glass wand dildo glistening with all the colors of the rainbow, and a perfectly curved shape that makes it ideal for G-spot stimulation. The bubbles that gradually taper in size will be a fun way to explore new sensations & textures through internal stimulation, and the smooth surface of the toy makes it super easy to slide right in and out!
Ohhh stainless steel, one of the hidden wonders of the sex toy world. Stainless steel toys use the power of gravity to provide firm, solid, and full pleasure, which is oh-so-delightful, especially when it also offers G-spot stimulation. This beautifully curved dildo provides direct connection to the G-spot and has the potential for extra fun through hot or cold temperature play!
Best Dual Stimulation G-Spot Sex Toys
Bonus: want to explore the potential for extra powerful orgasms via external AND internal stimulation at the same time?! Enjoy both external clitoral stimulation AND internal G-spot stimulation with the dual-purpose toys below!
The We-Vibe Chorus is one of our all-time favorite hands-free sex toys for many reasons – one being that it provides dual stimulation via an external vibrator that rests on the clitoris and an internal piece that fits vaginally. Hannah Montana said it best – the best of both worlds!
Similar to the Chorus, the Womanizer Duo offers delightful dual stimulation through a suuuper satisfying clitoral suction vibrator and a rumbly, firm internally vibrating arm, curved to hit your G-spot just right.
Finally, you can’t go wrong with a rabbit vibrator, which is a vibe that has both a long, insertable dildo as well as an external piece that stimulates your clitoris! The We-Vibe Nova is an upgraded version of the most universal dual stimulator on the market, with a bendable G-spot arm and a flexible clitoral arm that adapts to your movements. Yesss please.
And there you have it – you’ve made it through the beginner’s guide to the O-so-famous G-spot! Now go have fun exploring ;)
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